Let me tell you, there’s a queer club night in the UK called Gal Pals that caters exclusively to queer women and NBs and only plays music by women and when It’s Raining Men came on last time you’d have thought the crowd was full of middle aged housewives. A banger is a banger is a banger, you just gotta let the music go innit
Please don’t ask me for relationship advice unless you are prepared to receive some truly upsetting information because some people are ready for the “He’s exhibiting the literal textbook signs of a psychological abuser and you need to get away from him before he successfully cuts you off from your support network” talk and some people aren’t
FOR WHOEVER NEEDS A REMINDER:
There is never any justification for someone putting their hands on you in any way without your consent short of immediate risk of harm or death.
If someone tells you that “the way I’m acting is your fault because you know that doing X thing would make me do it and you chose to do it anyway” is just fancy bullshit talk for, “I know my behaviour is wrong, but I don’t want to be held responsible for it so I’m pushing it on you”
Nothing good ever, ever comes from someone who tells you, “I don’t want you talking about our relationship with anyone”. This person cannot handle accepting responsibility and processing criticism so they need you to never, ever question them. That’s easier if they control the narrative and your friends aren’t there to cut in.
Nothing constructive comes from screaming.
“It’s not like that all the time” is optimistic and sweet, but the truth is, it shouldn’t be like that at all. Sweet words and gifts and gestures don’t erase being frightened for yourself or for your loved ones. That is not normal. Don’t minimize it.
It is not healthy or normal to be genuinely afraid of saying “no” to someone, for any reason at all. Violence, outbursts, retaliation, anything. You should not have to be afraid of someone’s reaction to your boundaries.
You are not responsible for saving anyone. Even if you love them. Even if they have nobody else. At the end of the day, if they want to hurt themselves in any way, they will, and you can’t stop them forever. People need to want to improve before they can actually improve, and if they’re threatening to harm themselves to keep you around, they’re using your love to hold themselves hostage. You do not decide their choices for them, and they don’t get to shunt that off on you.
There will always be other people who can love you better. You will not be alone forever. This will not be the last time you care for someone like this and it will not be the last time someone cares for you
I love the idea of dead gods. Not in the sense of “hey i killed something supernaturally strong” but in the sense of “i killed it and it’s still a god.” It is still worshipped. prayers are still answered. miracles are performed in its name, even as it lies pierced by a thousand swords and burning with chemical fire. even as it drifts through vacuum, decapitated and bleeding molten rock. in cosmic spite of being shot through each eye and hurled into a plasma reactor, it still radiates the power of the divine in a way that primitive death cannot smother. the nature of godchild is not so simple as to be tied to the mortality, or immortality, of any living being.
In science that’s called a whalefall :)
One of my favorite lines from an SCP info page (paraphrased because I can’t find the exact one again) “Killing the SCP did not cause the anomalies to cease, as the least anomalous part of it was that it was alive.”
I joked a few minutes ago about how in internet discourse anyone over 25 is a “queer elder” but come to think of it most of these young discoursers don’t even believe such a concept exists. Gay men who watched their entire friends groups perish to AIDS are “privileged cis gays,” older trans women who use dated terminology to describe their own experiences are problematic, elders are just a conservative old guard to rebel against, and anyone over thirty who speaks to you at all must be a predator. The first time I heard the phrase “okay groomer” online, it wasn’t coming from self identified conservatives but from tiktok teens reacting against leather at Pride. You guys are ignorant and uncultured and proud of it!
Nobody hates you because you’re young. They hate you because you’re ignorant and annoying. Hope this helps.
Speaking as a “queer elder” (don’t really feel like one but shit if we’re joking about anyone older than 25 being one might as well roll with it). To my young queers (and my young LGBT+ folks who don’t use queer).
You are not getting pushback from the older segment of the queer community because you are young.
It’s because you came into the spaces we built for you and instantly tried to kick us out.
It’s because we opened the doors for you and you walked in and demanded that everyone you don’t like leave. You demanded that the kinksters, the crossdressers, the freaks and the weirdos, the non-binary trans folks, the people with conflicting identity labels, the people who apparently don’t enjoy their smut “the right way” leave.
It’s because you have thrown yourself into queer spaces with all the fucking audacity of a straight white woman raging at a rainbow flag in a grocery store, wailing about how it’s not appropriate for children.
It’s because you apparently think that you have some right to tell us, and other queer people your age, HOW to be queer.
It’s because a SCARY number of you think that using the word queer is bad in the first place.
It’s because so many of you have come here drowning in radfem rhetoric, and your response to being corrected is to scream “pedo!” At any queer peer who disagrees with your puritanical approach to kink and fantasy.
It’s because so many of you think that being LGBT+ means you can’t possibly hold onto the conservative values you grew up with, and when you’re called on it you attack anyone and everyone in your way.
Us queer elders aren’t hating on you because you’re young. It’s because you have come into the space we built- a space that we built on from what OUR queer elders built. Which was built on what THEIR queer elders built. And so on, all held up by a foundation of fucking blood of the queers who did not fucking survive, who we lost before I was born, and continue to be lost.
If we seem hostile to you and the ideology you bring? It’s because us elders know a threat when we see it. And the shit I see SO MANY of you young queers saying IS a threat. No different than the threats we’ve faced before. Except this time. It’s coming from inside the fucking house- and we won’t tolerate that.
When September and October are nearing and you’re planning an event: google “Rosh Hashanah *year*” and *Yom Kippur *year*” and then, and I cannot stress this enough, don’t plan your event on those days. In fact, don’t plan any events starting sundown the night before. Those are the three most important days of the Jewish calendar, and, once again, I cannot stress enough how much this little bit of forethought and kindness will make every Jew you know cry tears of joy.
in 2023, the night before Rosh Hashanah is Thursday evening, September 14.
Sometimes I like to sit and think about the absolute culture shock it must have been for Bruce Wayne to go from the chaos of one Richard “I will put down Tony Zucco with my bare hands” Grayson, to 11 years old Jason who physically embodies this image:
rose tyler hated her shitty job, wore £1 mascara, charity shop sweatpants, boxed hair bleach, couldn’t keep her room clean, hated rich people, was called a slag by the queen, constantly chat shit about her mum, slapped a guy that made her mum cry, astonished herself when she could do maths, 19 year old runaway, and the most beautiful woman on my tv 2005 - 2006
With all the talk about Twitter and social media going on, I felt really inspired to do a comic about RSS feeds. This is a really barebones guide but I hope it helps you stay updated with your favourite webcomics, artists and websites.
The nice thing about RSS feeds is that almost any kind of site has one, so if you wanted you could add user feeds from tumblr, twitter, mastodon, etc. here’s some helpful guides on how to add those (1)(2)
I hope you found this little guide helpful. I’m just a simple guy who’s passionate about RSS feeds, comics and staying updated using both. Go forth and make the feed of your dreams! Topaz Comics | Topaz Comics RSS | Art Blog | Art Blog RSS
Because this is seemingly relevant again!
An update is that I’m now using Feedbro as a social media alternative (while still using Feedly for webcomics).
